SEX, ADULTERY & FORNICATION - IITB 12.17

 

Chapter 12.17

Sex, Adultery

& Fornication

What’s wrong with sex?  99% of the world participates.

 

 

First Word

     David had just turned eleven when I took him outside to our camper to talk privately with him about the “Facts of Life”; how babies were made.  After only a minute, he interrupted me to say “I already know that”.   I asked him, “How did you find out about this?”  He said “Gina told me”; I said, “Gina; GOOD GRIEF, Gina is only eight years old!”

     Today, it’s considered just plain old fashion to prohibit sex outside of marriage.  99% of all insects, birds, animals and humans all have sex.  People are born with the intense DESIRE to have sex; we are born to reproduce.  God Himself said to be fruitful and multiply;[1] so what’s the big deal?

 

Wikipedia

     ADULTERY is EXTRAMARITAL SEX that is considered objectionable on social, religious, moral, or legal grounds.  A single act of sexual intercourse is generally sufficient to constitute adultery, and a more long-term sexual relationship is sometimes referred to as an affair.  

     Historically, many cultures considered adultery a very serious crime, some subject to severe punishment, usually for the woman and sometimes for the man, with penalties including capital punishment, mutilation, or torture.

     FORNICATION is generally consensual sexual intercourse between two people NOT MARRIED to each other.  The term Fornication is often replaced with more judgment-neutral terms like premarital sex or extramarital sex. When one or more of the partners having consensual sexual intercourse is a married person, it is called adultery.

 

Dishonor God

     Part of the problem with our society today is that we do not pass down to our children what we learned from our parents.  It only takes one generation for God’s laws to be forgotten; all through Bible history, Israel got in trouble because they didn’t pass down the laws of God from generation to generation.  Parents are responsible to God for teaching God’s precepts to their children; they are responsible for their children’s discipline; this will literally save them from destruction.[2]

     It’s a commandment: No sex outside of marriage;[3] your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, so therefore do not dishonor God.  SEX IS A SIN outside of marriage.

 

Someone that is in sexual immorality is literally destroying himself. [4]

Listen to your parents

     Why buy a cow, when you can get the milk free through the fence; stolen water is the sweetest, bread eaten in a secret place is the best.  Those casual hugs can light up the imagination and emotion of your heart.  Adultery doesn’t just happen; it’s planned.  An adulterous spirit can’t stay home, plans must be made for rendezvous and then more plans to cover it up with lies.  This path is the way to Hell and eternal separation from God.[5]

I will not list it all here, but read what a father told his son about prostitutes

 

Proverbs 9:13-18 – Stolen water is the sweetest

The woman Folly is loud; she is undisciplined and without knowledge.

She sits at the door of her house, on a seat at the highest point of the city, calling out to those who pass by, who go straight on their way.

"Let all who are simple come in here!" she says to those who lack judgment. "Stolen water is sweet; food eaten in secret is delicious!" But little do they know that the dead are there, that her guests are in the depths of the grave.  

NIV

 

Proverbs 7:6-27 – The path to immorality leads to hell.

     At the window of my house I looked out through the lattice. I saw among the simple, I noticed among the young men, a youth who lacked judgment. He was going down the street near her corner, walking along in the direction of her house at twilight, as the day was fading, as the dark of night set in.

     Then out came a woman to meet him, dressed like a prostitute and with crafty intent. She is loud and defiant, her feet never stay at home; now in the street, now in the squares, at every corner she lurks.

     She took hold of him and kissed him and with a brazen face she said: "I have fellowship offerings at home; today I fulfilled my vows. So I came out to meet you; I looked for you and have found you! I have covered my bed with colored linens from Egypt. I have perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes and cinnamon.

     Come, let's drink deep of love till morning; let's enjoy ourselves with love! My husband is not at home; he has gone on a long journey.  He took his purse filled with money and will not be home till full moon."

     With persuasive words she led him astray; she seduced him with her smooth talk.

     All at once he followed her like an ox going to the slaughter, like a deer stepping into a noose till an arrow pierces his liver, like a bird darting into a snare, little knowing it will cost him his life.  

     Now then, my sons, listen to me; pay attention to what I say. Do not let your heart turn to her ways or stray into her paths. Many are the victims she has brought down; her slain are a mighty throng.

     Her house is a highway to the grave, leading down to the chambers of death.

 NIV

 

AIDS

     Do not despise instruction, incline your ear to the voice of the teacher that walks in the ways of God.  Receive instruction now to save yourself from trouble and despair later. Immorality make you unstable; what you have worked for will go to another. Save your family, your home, your assets from total ruin; save yourself from AIDS

Proverbs 5:6-13 -When you get AIDS you’ll wish you had listened.

     Lest you ponder her path of life; her ways are unstable; you do not know them.  Therefore hear me now, my children, and do not depart from the words of my mouth.  

     Remove your way far from her, and do not go near the door of her house, lest you give your honor to others, and your years to the cruel one; lest aliens be filled with your wealth, and your labors go to the house of a foreigner; and you mourn at last, when your FLESH and your BODY are consumed, and say:

     How I have hated instruction, and my heart despised correction!  I have NOT obeyed the voice of my teachers, nor inclined my ear to those who instructed me!

NKJV

 

Webster:

     Most of the time, the whore or the woman is the one being addressed in scripture, however it’s actually referring to a people, both male and female, married and unmarried.  A whore is also addressed as a nation who has whored after other gods.   It’s a concept about honoring God.

Adultery – Voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and someone not their spouse.

Fornication - Voluntary sexual intercourse between two unmarried people.

Homosexuality – The desire to have sex with someone of the same sex as themselves.

Lesbianism – Homosexuality; sex between women.

Whore - A woman who engages in promiscuous sexual intercourse with men.

Dog – A boy or man that has sex with another man

Bestiality – Sexual relation between a person and an animal.

    

God

     The Bible says it’s a COMMANDMENT; do not commit adultery.[6]  Your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit,[7] you dishonor God when you commit adultery.  Your body is not for sexual immorality,[8] which deserves death[9] and separation from God,[10] your thoughts, prayers, offerings and sacrifices become an abomination to Him.[11]  God groups Sexual immorality with the SIN of Witchcraft.[12]  You do not have the Spirit of God in you[13] so He removes Himself from you and gives you what you want.[14]

 

Sex is strong

     The human desire for sex is strong for both sexes; sometimes the passion is so great that you can’t escape it,[15] sometimes it becomes forced; RAPE.  While immoral behavior is only one of the Ten Commandments, it is by far one of the strongest as it spins off; Lies, emotional distress, broken families, disease, sickness, and sometimes murder.[16]  When you are horny, a kiss can melt you;[17] even a toad frog will look like a prince.[18]

 

In Secret

     God sees what you do in secret,[19] your sins will find you out.   The seed that you sow in the secret of the dark, will become a harvest in the light[20] of far more that you expected and last far longer than you wanted.[21]   The adulterer seeks the dark places thinking no one will know him.  Have you ever wondered why night clubs and bars are so dark?  If you mess with fire, you will get burned.[22]

 

Sodom and Gomorrah

     In the very beginning of the Bible we see the power of sex and the downward spiral it takes the person that cannot control their desires, one sinful act causes them to do another.  The scriptures will make you blush at the lack of sensitivity to purity.[23]

     The drive for sex makes your “understanding” become confused about what is right and wrong.[24]  Your “conscious” become dulled and finally is seared over; it puts your heart in bondage.[25]  This powerful sex drive causes some people to seek SEX with partners of the same sex;[26] to have sex with animals.[27]  

God says it is a great hatred, an abomination,

loathsome, disgusting, revolting; makes Him want to puke.[28]

 

Abortion

   You can’t hardly talk about sex without talking about the decisions made concerning immoral activity leading to the aborting of a child.  The term Pro-Choice sounds like a good thing, but concerning the life of a baby, it means you have the right to murder your child.  Satan has a way of making evil seem good.

      Satan in an attempt to make dark appear as light, tries to trick you into thinking of your baby as a blob or just tissue and tries to rename an unborn child by calling it a fetus or just a product of conception.  The life of a child is a gift from God[29] and begins at conception, wonderfully and fearfully made in the image of God [30]and formed[31] and knitted together by the hands of God Himself.[32]

     A child is genetically complete at conception and is independent of its mother, depending only on her for nourishment; at 42 days the child has brain activity and can experience pain.  In eight weeks the child has developed all its parts.

     Partial birth abortion is when a child is maneuvered in the womb to come out feet first 4/5th of the way out; then they suck the brains out of the child’s head before the remainder of its body is removed.  The abortion of a child affects not only the mother, but the father and all the family members connected to this child.  The scars are forever; but so is God’s forgiveness.

Are you Single?

     If you are single and have sex, then you should get married.[33]  If you don’t want to marry him, then don’t sleep with him. God says to abstain from fornication.[34]  

 

Are you Married?

     If you are married, God says to be satisfied with your own wife,[35] don’t look around at others women.[36]  The Bible says; an unfaithful wife is like rottenness in her husband’s bones.[37]  When he finds out, there will be hell to pay; jealousy will show no mercy and takes revenge.[38]

 

A covenant

     Marriage is a covenant between a man, a woman and God;[39] there are three in the marriage covenant.  You are in covenant with God; covenants must not be broken, to dishonor your spouse is to dishonor God.

 

Wife Swapping

     Drink in the love of your own wife; don’t share her with your neighbor.[40]

 

Two become one

     Sex is like a drug that dulls the mind, it smooths over bumps in your marriage.[41]   Outside of marriage it makes sinseem not so bad;” it was just what was needed at the time. When you have sex with someone who is not your wife, you are uniting yourself with her and all her other lovers; the two of you become one flesh.[42] 

 

The Good Wife

     The characteristics of a good wife: A good wife is sent from God;[43] she is of noble character, brings good to her family, Works vigorously with eager hands, provides for the family needs, helps her neighbor, has strength and dignity,  instructs her children, does not gossip, curse[44] or make sexual innuendos; she loves the Lord.

Proverbs 31:10-31 - Characteristics of a good wife

10 A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.

11 Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.

12 She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.

13 She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands.

14 She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar.

15 She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls.

16 She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.

17 She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks.

18 She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night.

19 In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers.

20 She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy.

21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet.

22 She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple.

23 Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.

24 She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes.

25 She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.

26 She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.

27 She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.

28 Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her:

29 "Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all."

30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.

31 Give her the reward she has earned, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate. NIV

 

Shun the immoral “Christian”

     If you really want to know what a person is like, just look at the friends they choose.  Birds of a feather flock together.  If a person calls themselves a “Christian,” but is active in sexual immorality, you are not to associate with them; don’t even Do Lunchwith them.[45]  Give them over to Satan so that they are “shaken back to their senses” and save their souls from the lake of fire and the permanent separation from God.

 

There is Hope

     Sexual immorality is not a new temptation or something special just in your life.  Do not test God,[46] you have control over your own body[47] and He will give you a way of escape.[48]  You are living a life of extreme ignorance, [49] but God has extreme mercy.[50]  He gives you time to repent[51] and leave the life of immorality behind for a new life that honors Him.  Life is choice driven, you don’t have to stay where you are; it’s a choice.[52] 

     You may have to leave friends behind,[53] they will think you are acting strange when you don’t run with the pack anymore and will probably make fun of you.[54]  If you are weak in your decision, share this word study with your partner, perhaps the two of you can be strong together. 

 

Forgiveness

     Forgive your offending spouse if they repent;[55] God continues to forgive you and searches for you to take you back.

 

The Take Away

     The laws of God HAVE NOT been passed down from generation to generation, and today people think abstaining from SEX it just plain old fashion.  It’s the parent’s responsibility to pass on the precepts of God; to provide discipline and it’s the child’s responsibility to listen.

     When you are Single,” sexual intercourse is called FORNICATION; when you are “married,” it’s called ADULTERY, and God calls it an ABOMINATION.  Sex is powerful and strong; it INTOXICATES your thinking and confuses your actions.  Marriage is a Blood Covenant between a man, a woman and God; your wife is not to be shared with anyone, nor your daughter.

     We have been commanded by God not to commit sexual immorality; He groups it with the sin of Witchcraft.  Sexual immorality takes the form of adultery, fornication, Homosexuality, Lesbianism, Prostitution and Bestiality.  Sex outside of marriage leads to disease, unwanted children, abortion and emotional scars. 

     When you have sex with a prostitute, you become one with her AND ALL HER OTHER LOVERS.  A Christian who is in sexual immorality is to be shunned in order to shake them back to their senses and save their souls from disaster. 

     If your spouse has been unfaithful and they confess their sin and turn from their wicked ways, forgive them for God certainly seeks us out and forgives us.  There is hope for the one who is caught up in sexual immorality; God will provide a way of escape if you want it; the Holy Spirit can only show you the door; you must choose to walk through it.

Life is choice driven.

 

Choose today who you will serve

The physical or the spiritual.

As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.[56]



[1] Genesis 1:28 - Then God blessed them and said, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth

[2] Proverbs 23:13-14 – Parents should discipline their children with the rod and save his soul from death -- Proverbs 15:5 – Listen to your parents. a fool spurns his father's discipline

[3] Exodus 20:14 - You shall not have sex with someone you are not married to; do not commit adultery

[4] Proverbs 6:32 – An adultery destroys himself for lack of knowledge.

 

 

[5] Proverbs 5:20-21 – Listen Son, God will see your immorality -- Ephesians 5:3 – Stay away from anything that hints of being impure -- Proverbs 5:8 – Walk on the other side of the street

 

[6] Mark 10:18-19 – It’s a commandment; do not commit adultery -- Exodus 20:14 – Don’t do it; you shall not commit adultery

[7] 1 Corenthians 6:18-20 – Your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit.

[8] 1 Corenthians 6:13 – The body is not for sexual immorality.

[9] Romans 1:32 – Immorality deserves death

[10] Revelation 21:8 – The sexually immoral will not go to heaven.

[11] Proverbs 15:26 - Your thoughts are an abomination -- Proverbs 28:9 – Your prayers are an abomination -- Deuteronomy 23:18 – Your offering is an abomination -- Proverbs 15:8 – Your sacrifice is an abomination

[12] Galatians 5:19-21 – Sexual immorality is grouped with the SIN of witchcraft.

[13] Jude 18-19 – You don’t have the Spirit of God when you are following ungodly desires,

[14] Romans 1:28 – God will give you what you want; He will walk away

[15] Proverbs 23:27-28 – Sex is a deep pit and hard to get out

[16] Proverbs 22:14 – An immoral woman’s kiss pulls you to the pit

[17] Proverbs 5:3 – Her lips will melt you, her mouth is smoother than oil

[18] Proverbs 27:7-8 –When you’re HORNY, a toad frog looks like a prince.

[19] John 4:16-18 – God knows your innermost thoughts

[20] Job 24:15 – The adulterer and fornicator thinks no one knows what he does. -- 2 Samuel 12:12 – God will reveal what you have done in secret

[21] Ephesians 5:11-13 – Stay away from immorality; it will be exposed

[22] Proverbs 6:27-29 – Play with fire of SEX and you will get burned.

[23] Ezekiel 22:10-11 – In you ARE detestable things. -- Ephesian 4:17-19 – Indulging in every kind of impurity and lust

[24] Leviticus 18:20 – Don’t have sex with your friends wife -- Leviticus 19:29 – Don’t prostitute your daughter

[25] 2 Peter 2:14 – Sin never stops, it’s like a dog returning to its vomit.

[26] Genesis 19:5 – Some men want sex with other men

[27] Leviticus 18:23 – Don’t have sex with animals -- Leviticus 20:15-16 – Kill the person who has sex with an animal

[28] Revelation 3:16 – SEXUAL IMMORALITY MAKES GOD WANT TO THROW UP.

[29] Psalms 127:3 – A baby is an inheritance, a gift from God

[30] Genesis 1:27 – A baby is made in the image of God

[31] Jeremiah 1:5 – God forms every child in the womb.

[32] Psalms 139:13-14 – It is God that knits together each child

[33] Exodus 22:16 – If you have sex, then you should get married.

[34] Acts 15:20 – Abstain from fornication -- 1 Thessalonians 4:3 – It is God’s will; that you abstain from fornication

[35] Proverbs 5:19-20 – Be satisfied with the wife that you entered into the COVENANT with God.

[36] Mark 7:21-23 – Thoughts of immorality make a man unclean.-- Matthew 5:28 – You sin when you look lustfully at a woman, you have already committed adultery with her in your heart

[37] Proverbs 12:4 – An unfaithful wife rots her husband’s bones.

[38] Proverbs 6:34:35 – Jealousy shows no mercy and takes revenge.

[39] Job 31:1 – MARRIAGE IS A COVENANT WITH GOD, MAN & WIFE -- Malachi 2:14 – The Lord is in covenant with you and your wife.

[40] Proverbs 5:15-18 – Share yourself and your wife with no one

[41] Proverbs 30:20 – Sex makes all things right in your marriage; it’s like a drug to the mind

[42] 1 Corenthians 6:15-17 – You become one with the one you have sex with.

[43] Proverbs 18:22 – A good wife is favor from the Lord. -- Proverbs 19:14 – A good wife is sent from God

[44] Proverbs 11:22 – Course language shouldn’t come from a “lady”.

[45] 1 Corenthians 5:1 – Don’t associate with “Christians” who are practicing sexually immorality

[46] 1 Corenthians 10:8-9 – Do not test God as some of them did and died

[47] Galatians 5:22-23 – You have SELF-CONTROL over your body

[48] 1 Corenthians 10:13 – God will make a way for you to escape temptation.

[49] 1 Timothy 1:13-14 – You were once in ignorance and unbelief, but God abundantly pardons.

[50] John 8:4-11 – Jesus forgives

[51] Revelation 2:20-21 – God gives us a lifetime to repent

[52] Josh 24:15 – Chose today whom you will serve; as for me and my household, we will serve the LORD

[53] 1 Peter 4:3-4 – You must leave the past and the pack behind.

[54] 1 Peter 4:14 – They will probably make fun of you.

[55] Judges 19:1-3 – Forgive your unfaithful spouse

[56] Joshua 24:15-  Choose this day whom you will serve; as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD

 

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