Chapter 10.19
Marriage
Covenant
Design – Bride Price – Wedding Party - Children
Interracial Marriage - Sampson’s wife – Polygamy
What’s Love got to do with it? - Divorce –
Alimony
Custody - Marriage Instructions from God
First Word
Marriage today is presented to
appeal to the “Lower
Instincts” of man instead of the “Higher Instincts” which
glorifies God. We have glamorized Adultery, Divorce, loose
marriage vows and same sex marriage as the norm. This Word study is to refresh and renew the dignity,
righteousness and intimacy of Marriage.
Definition
Wikipedia; Marriage (also called matrimony or wedlock) is a socially or ritually recognized union or
legal contract between spouses that
establishes rights and obligations. The
definition of marriage varies according to different cultures, but it is
principally an institution in which
interpersonal relationships, usually intimate and sexual, are
acknowledged.
When defined broadly, marriage is
considered a “cultural
universal”. A broad definition
of marriage includes those that are monogamous, polygamous, same-sex and temporary. People marry for many reasons, including: legal, social, libidinal, emotional, financial, spiritual,
and religious. Who they marry may
be influenced by socially determined rules of incest, prescriptive marriage rules, parental choice and individual
desire.
Webster; Marriage: The state of being married… To join in
wedlock as husband and wife… Intimately joined… Husband;
a male - Wife; a female… Procreate;
to produce or bring into existence.[1]
Scripture
Forbidding Marriage: Because of the
“focused” preaching
of the Gospel, Paul thought it best not to have any encumbrances such as
marriage, but he did not forbid it. Peter thought differently and was married
and took his wife with him on his mission trips.[2] Some men, through their own hypocrisy have
made doctrines
forbidding marriage, scripture rebukes
this and labels it as lies.
When I read this scripture; I can’t help but think of the Catholic
Church forbidding their Priest to
marry and the issues that it has caused.[3] Scripture
states Priest were only forbidden to marry prostitutes and divorced women.[4] If
Peter was the first Catholic Pope; then by example Priest should be allowed to
marry as Peter was. It’s in the Book.
Bible: Marriage is a COVENANT between a man, a woman and God.[5] After God made Adam he gave him a wife so that
he would not be alone, and he would have love, companionship and would be physically,
emotionally and spiritually complete.[6]
God said when a man
marries a woman the two become one flesh.[7] God made Eve,
Christ honored the Marriage Covenant by
attending a wedding and working His first miracle of turning water into wine[9].
Wine is symbolic of spiritual
blessings, goodness, prosperity, abundance, safety and health. (Drinking alcohol is not a sin, God have it to us and said it is good; Drunkenness is a sin, and so is Gluttony)
In my BS, I believe that in the beginning, God Himself instituted and ordained
the family life[10]
when He created man both male and female and commanded them to multiply.[11]
An awesome
thought:
through marriage, a man and a woman
are
permitted to be God’s instruments in creating a new life;
an
immortal life that will live forever; somewhere.
Marriage is not something that is drifted into aimlessly or swept into
by a whirlwind of passion. It’s “For better or worse.”
Marriage requires serious thought of the fitting together of two lives and the
arduous responsibilities that comes along with it, plus plugging into the working
of God’s ultimate plan.[12]
When we acknowledge God, He will direct our path.[13]
In God’s plan, two people are better than one;[14] they
can warm each other as well as help each other; they are like TWO bears… Bear
and Forbear… Forbearance, consideration
and mutual kindness solidifies the home.
Marriage
was divinely instituted that the man and wife should become one flesh. The two
MUST belong to the Lord; both worshiping the
God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob.[15] God will give them one heart and one way to
honor Him, so that it will go well with them and their children after them;[16] it’s
a partnership that only death can separate.[17]
The spouse selected should not bring shame, but bring honor to the
parents and family.[18] Marriage is designed for contentment and happiness,
not wanting that any should be alone. It
is to be a source of joy and satisfaction.[19]
Marriage is designed to allow us to
participate in the bringing forth of a new godly creation, a child.[20] Marriage avoids immorality and provides an
honorable and lawful relationship with one
spouse.[21]
Marriage is sacred and is symbolic of
the UNION between God and His own; the
church.[22]
Did it my way
Sampson was called by God before he was
ever born to take the Nazirite vow and
be a judge over Israel.[23] Although Sampson was a Judge in Israel, he did not seek
God in his actions; far from it, according to Josephus
the Jewish Historian, he became full of pride and arrogance
stating that God had nothing to do with his success; although later he finally did repent and asked for forgiveness.
Sampson did not check with God about Delilah;[24]
he only saw her outward beauty[25]
and wanted her and without God’s guidance his holy wedlock became an unholy deadlock.[26] Sampson not only intermarried with a Philistine
woman,[27] but she was also a prostitute; bringing shame to
his parents TWICE over. However God used this un-holy marriage in His
own plan, His ultimate end.
Thousands
of Philistine warriors could not bring Samson down, BUT one lone harlot ensnared him. This unholy marriage cost him his strength,
his liberty, his eyes and finally his life.
As Dr. Phil would say, “How’s that workin’ for you Sampson?”
Josephus 11:306 – Delilah was a harlot among the philistines
306 However he
at length transgressed the laws of his country, and altered his own regular way
of living, and imitated the strange customs of foreigners, which thing was the
beginning of his miseries; for
HE FELL IN LOVE WITH A WOMAN THAT WAS A HARLOT;
HER NAMED WAS DELILAH, and he lived
with her.
Josephus 8:300 – Sampson slew 1,000 with a jaw bone of an ass.
300 Samson broke
his bonds asunder and catching up the jawbone of an ass that lay down at his
feet, fell upon his enemies, and
SMITING THEM WITH HIS JAWBONE SLEW A THOUSAND OF
THEM,
and put the rest
to flight and into great disorder
Josephus 9:301 – Sampson became proud and vaunted himself
301 Upon this
slaughter Samson was too PROUD of what he had
performed and aside that
THIS DID NOT COME TO PASS BY THE ASSISTANCE OF GOD,
but that his
successes was to be ascribed to this own courage and vaunted himself, that it
was out of a dread of him that some of his enemies fell, and the rest ran away
upon his use of the jawbone.
Josephus 9:302 – In the end; Samson asked
forgiveness for what he said.
302 But when a
great thirst came upon him,
HE CONSIDERED THAT HUMAN COURAGE IS NOTHING,
AND BARE TESTIMONY THAT ALL IS TO BE ASCRIBED
TO GOD,
and besought him
that he would not be angry at anything he had said.
Marriage Covenant
The Marriage covenant requires
preparation of THREE THINGS.
1)
Prayer: Start early seeking God for “His will”
concerning your marriage partner. There
is THREE involved in
this covenant; a man; a woman and God, this is Holy covenant. The servant of Abraham relied upon the divine promise
of guidance from God to find a wife for Isaac
and it was Love at first sight.[28] Ask according to God’s will
and He will hear you and you will have it.[29]
It is God’s will that you find
the right one to marry, as some marriages can be made in Hell. Seek first the kingdom of heaven and the rest of
your needs will be added unto you.[30]
2)
Seek
Counsel
concerning the length, breath and responsibility of this BINDING “life commitment.” Wait on God, be patient, it may take some
time, maybe years; Jacob worked for seven years TWICE for the hand of
Rachel and the years seemed to him as just a few days;[31]
his love for Rachel was so great that when he kissed her, he wept.[32] Jacob loved, not only in word, but in
deed. Christ loved the Church and gave Himself for
it. Count the cost[33]
before the marriage merger; all the assets
will be combined as well as
3)
Set
the time and place: In
a wedding you invite friends, relatives and witness; those that will hold you
accountable. God is present and is the WITNESS to the Marriage Covenant; [34] because
of God’s
presence, the place you marry becomes holy
ground.[35] SELAH
Instructions from God
The
Church is the Bride
of our Maker;
the Maker
is the husband of the Believer.
Christ is the head of the Husband and the Husband is the head of the
Wife.[36] Let Christ be the head of your home; the UNSEEN GUEST at every meal; the SILENT
LISTENER
to every conversation.[37] Keep and teach your family “The way of the Lord”.[38] A man that finds a Believing wife, finds a good
thing and will receive FAVOR from God.[39]
Marry only a believer or they will be a source of irritation and grief
to your family.[40]
Husbands are to have
only
Be sensitive to her needs and comfort
her when she is stressed.[47]
Wives are to love and respect
their husbands;[48]
exhibit self-control; be pure, kind and busy at home and submit
to their husbands as it is fit in the Lord.[49]
Let your beauty come from your inner self with a gentle
and quiet spirit,[50]
not from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold
jewelry and fine clothes.[51] Dress modestly and decently and do good works.
You are to be a women worthy of respect; not a malicious talker,[52]
but temperate and trustworthy
in everything. Let your virtuousness be a crown to your husband;[53]
your worth will exceed that of rubies.[54]
Do not withhold your bodies from
each other except for a time of prayer,[55]
but then come back together, lest SATAN will get a foothold in your marriage: your
bodies belong to each other. Let your
home be a home of family prayer. Recall the proverb; “A
family that prays together stays together”. “A house without
prayer is like a house without a roof”. When sorrows and needs
come; share your heart with the Lord in prayer and receive comfort.
Prayer
is the mortar between the bricks of a
home.
Children are a heritage
and a GIFT from God;[56] bless, provide
and have compassion for them.[57] Pray
for them,[58]
and chasten them, but don’t provoke them to
anger.[59] Take them to church, teach them the ways of God, generation to generation.[60] Command
them to obey God’s Laws;[61] teach them right from wrong, do not withhold discipline from them, it will save their life.[62] God disciplines HIS children, therefore
following God’s example you are to discipline YOUR children with
the means that gets their attention.[63]
No man
lives unto just himself; his influence is never neutral. He sows either
evil
or good
seeds that influences future generations. Pour out good seed for spiritual blessings on
your children; make your home a place of refuge for them[64]
and leave them an inheritance.[65]
Children
honor your mother and your father
so
that things will go well with you and you will have a long life.
Interracial Marriage
The Song of Solomon speaks of Solomon
as a Hebrew in love with a BLACK woman, but was she really black? The scriptures indicate that she was forced
to work in the vineyards and the sun made her skin dark.[66] Read the Song of Solomon to see the beautiful
courtship and intimacy between these two. The Song of Solomon is also symbolic
of the love between Jehovah God and Israel.
Marriage is a shadow of the church as the “Bride
of Christ.
”God commanded the Israelites to not intermarry with those of
other nations;[67]
God wanted a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy
nation set apart to Him.[68]
King Solomon did
evil in the sight of god and intermarried, having 700 wives and 300
concubines and this led him into even deeper SIN. [69]
However I must point out that this command of
segregation was for the nation of Israel; it did not apply to the other heathen nations that worshipped the
numerous pagan gods. The concept of segregation still applies; you should not
be unequally yoked. [70]
A Believer should not marry a un-believer
whether you are Jewish or not.
[1] Genesis 1:28 – We are commanded to have children; "Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth
and subdue it”.
[2] 1 Corenthians 9:5 –
Cephas-(Peter) took
his wife with him
[3] 1 Tim 4:2 – It was an
grievous ERROR to
ever forbid marriage
[4] Leviticus 21:7 – PRIEST CANNOT
MARRY PROSTITUTES OR DIVORCED WOMEN
[5] Job 31:1 – Marriage is a COVENANT -- Malachi 2:14 – The Lord is IN COVENANT with you
and your wife.
[6] 1 Corenthians 7:1-2 –
Since there is so much immorality, each MAN should have his
own WIFE, and each WOMAN her own HUSBAND --
Ephesians 5:33 – Love and honor each other and
(let) the wife (see) that she fear (honors) her husband
[7] Genesis 2:24 – A man and
a woman become one flesh
[8] Genesis 1:27 – God
created male & female in His own image --
Genesis 2:22 – God made Woman from Man’s flesh, the TWO are ONE
[9] John 2:1-11 – Jesus the
Christ honors the Marriage Covenant when He
turned water into wine at a wedding
[10] Ephesians 3:14-15 – God
instituted the Family Unit
[11] Genesis 2:24 – Man and a Woman become ONE flesh
-- Genesis 2:22 – God made Woman from Man’s flesh, the TWO are ONE
[12] Colossians 3:2 – Set your
minds on things above, not on earthly things
[13] Proverbs 30:18-19 – God
will direct the ways of a man and his wife -- Proverbs 3:6 – Acknowledge God
and He will direct your path
[14] Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 – God
says TWO
are better than one -- Genesis 2:18 – It is not good to be alone, we need a
helpmate
[15] 1 Corenthians 7:39 – YOUR SPOUSE MUST
ALSO BELONG TO THE LORD
[16] Jeremiah 32:39 – God will
give them ONE
heart and ONE way
forever for the good of them, and of their children after them
[17] Romans 7:2-3 – The
Marriage is until death do us part
[18] Genesis 28:8-9 – Select
and marry someone that does not bring shame to the family
[19] Proverbs 5:18 – Marriage
is a source of Joy and blessings and satisfaction.
[20] Malachi 2:15 – God
desires Godly children for the family
[21] 1 Corenthians 7:2 – Avoid immorality; enter
into the Marriage Covenant with God
[22] Isaiah 54:5 – God; the husband of the Church;
a sacred institution
[23] Judges 13:2-5 - Sampson
was called to be set apart as a Nazarite and
become a Judge over Israel even before his
was born
[24] Judges 14:3b – Get me that Philistine woman for me to be my wife
[25] 1 Peter 3:3-4 – Beauty should come from within; gentle and a quiet
spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight. Not
from outward adornment, braided hair, gold jewelry and fine clothes
[26] Judges 16:10 – Delilah was treacherous; it was a marriage made in Hell
[27] Judges 14:3a – Delilah
was not of their race or faith.
[28] Genesis 24:67 – It was Love at first sight for Isaac and Rebekah
[29] 1 John 5:14-15 – Ask according to God’s will and
He will hear you
[30] Matthew 6:33 – Seek God
first and He will ADD
the best of other things as well -- Genesis 24:7 – The LORD God will guide you to
your wife if you ask
[31] Genesis 29:20 – Jacob
worked for seven years to marry Rachel
[32] Genesis 29:11 – Such was
Jacob’s love that when he kissed Rachel he wept
[33] Luke 14:28-29 – Count the
cost of the responsibilities, the assets and liabilities before you marry
[34] Malachi 2:14 – The Lord
is the WITNESS
to the Marriage Covenant
-- Deuteronomy 4:26 – God is the WITNESS of the Marriage Covenant
[35] Exodus 3:4-5 – Where you
marry is Holy Ground because God is present there.
HUSBANDS
[36] 1 Corenthians 11:3 – The
head of the husband is Christ -- Isaiah 54:5 – Our Maker is the husband of the
Believer -- Ephesians 5:23 – The head of the wife is her husband just as Christ
is the head of the church -- Genesis 3:16 – The husband has authority over the
wife --
[37] Luke 19:46 – Let your
home be a house of family prayer
[38] Genesis 18:19 – KEEP and TEACH your family the way of
the Lord
[39] Proverbs 18:22 – Whoever
finds a Believing wife will receive favor from God
[40] Genesis 26:34-35 – MARRY ONLY A
BELIEVER
[41] Titus 1:6 - Husband shall
have only ONE
wife -- Mark 10:7-8 – The Husband shall have only
[42] Ephesians 5:25 – Husbands
love your wife just as Christ loved the church
and gave himself up for her
[43] 1 Peter 3:7 – Treat your
wife with respect so that nothing will hinder
your prayers
[44] Proverbs 5:18 – Husbands
have a constant delight in your wife
[45] Matthew 19:6 – Let no man
or woman come between the two of you.
[46] Proverbs 17:7 – Have EXCELLENT speech -- Titus 2:8 – Speak SOUND SPEECH that cannot be condemned
-- Colossians 4:6 – Season your Speech with GRACE -- James 3:2 – Let your Speech be with DIGNITY so as not to offend --
Colossians 3:19 – Don’t be harsh to one other
[47] 1 Samuel 1:8 – Husbands
be sensitive to your wife’s needs and Comfort her -- Matthew 14:12 – Share your sorrow with
Jesus; his disciples came, and took up the body (of John the Baptist), and buried it, and (in sorrow) went
and told Jesus
WIVES
[48] Titus 2:4-5 – Wives love your husband; be pure
and kind, be self-controlled -- Ephesians
5:33 – Wives respect your husband
[49] Colossians 3:18 – Wives submit to your husbands as it is fit in the Lord
[51] 1 Peter 3:3-5 – Let your beauty come from your inner self
[52] 1 Timothy 3:11 – Don’t gossip; be temperate
and trustworthy
[53] Proverbs 12:4 – Let your virtuousness be a crown to your husband
[54] Proverbs 31:10-12 – A
Virtuousness wife is worth more than rubies.
[55] 1 Corenthians 7:3-5 – Do not withhold your body from each other
CHILDREN
[56] Genesis 4:1 – Children
are a GIFT from God -- Psalm 127:3 –
Children are a HERITAGE from
God; a reward.
[57] 1 Timothy 5:8 – Parents; provide for the needs of your children as well as the
extended family -- Hebrews 11:20 – Bless your children generation to generation -- Psalm
103:13 – Have Compassion on your children
[58] 1 Chronicals 29:19 – PRAY for your
children to
keep God’s commands, requirements and decrees
[59] Ephesians 6:4 – Don’t
provoke your children to anger, but chasten and admonish them with compassion
[60] Matthew 19:14 – Take your children to Church -- Proverbs 22:6 – TRAIN your
children in what is right and
when they are older they will not turn from it -- Ephesians 6:4 – INSTRUCT your
children in the ways of the Lord -- Deuteronomy 4:9 – Teach God’s ways
generation to generation -- Deuteronomy 32:46 – Require your children to OBEY the Lord’s commands
[61] Ephesians 6:1-3 – Children, obey your parents that it may be well with
you and you will live longer.
[62] Proverbs 23:13-14 – Don’t
withhold discipline from your children, it will
save their life -- Proverbs 19:18 – DISCIPLINE your children while they
are very young -- Proverbs 13:24 – If you love
your child, then spank them if they need correction -- Proverbs 29:17 – Discipline puts peace in your life as well as delight
in your soul
[63] Hebrews 12:7-8 – God disciplines his own children He is treating you as His
sons
[64] Proverbs 14:26 – Make your home a place of refuge.
[65] Proverbs 13:22 – Plan to LEAVE AN
INHERITANCE for
future generation
[66] Song of Solomon 1:5-7 – I
am beautifully darkened by the sun
[67] Deuteronomy 7:1-5 – God
command Israel NOT TO INTERMARRY with the pagan nations
[68] 1 Peter 2:9 – Israel is a
CHOSEN
PEOPLE, a ROYAL
PRIESTHOOD, a
HOLY
NATION
[69] 1 Kings 11:1-9 – Solomon
intermarried and Sinned against God and the LORD became angry with Solomon because his heart had
turned away from the LORD, the God of Israel
[70] 2 Corenthians 6:14 – DO NOT BE
UNEQUALLY YOKED WITH UNBELIEVERS, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity or what
communion hath light with darkness?
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