Chapter 9.9
Narcissism
Trump & God
President Trump – The Narcissistic Personality
Disorder Bible
Egocentrism – Narcissistic Supply - 7 deadly sins
- 15 Step Cure
Is our President, Donald J. Trump a
Narcissist? – Will he be a blessing or a curse?
First
Word
Narcissism
is a big 25 cent word that most of us have never used, so I feel a
need to unpack the enormous area which it covers as it is considered a mental disorder as well as a social or cultural problem. It is the pursuit of gratification
from vanity or egotistic admiration of one's own attributes. The narcissist
displays a high level of selfishness and sees everything from a perspective of
“How does this affect ME?”
The
Narcissists COOKBOOK has the following "basic
ingredients" -
Wikipedia -
Positive: Narcissists think they are better than others.
Inflated: Narcissists' views tend to be contrary to
reality. In measures, that compare
self-report to objective measures, narcissists' self-views tend to be
greatly exaggerated.
Agentic: Narcissists’ views tend to be most exaggerated in
the agentic domain, relative to the communion domain. Agentic; Unconscious or involuntary tendency
to become an
actor with feelings of an “illusion of
control” that takes credit for events that they did not cause.
Special: Narcissists perceive themselves to be unique and special people.
Selfish: Research upon narcissists’ behavior in resource dilemmas
supports the case for narcissists as being selfish.
Oriented toward success: Narcissists are oriented towards success by being, for example, approach oriented. - Wikipedia -
Definition
A 2012 book
on Power-Hungry Narcissists suggests that narcissists typically
display most, and sometimes all, of the following traits: - (Wikipedia) -
1)
An obvious self-focus in interpersonal exchanges
2)
Problems in sustaining satisfying relationships
3)
A lack of psychological awareness
4)
Difficulty with empathy
5)
Problems distinguishing the self from others
6)
Hypersensitivity to any insults or imagined insults
7)
Vulnerability to shame rather
than guilt
8)
Haughty body language
9)
Flattery towards people who admire and
affirm them - (Narcissistic
supply)
10) Detesting those
who do not admire them
11)
Using other people without considering the cost
of doing so - (Narcissistic
supply)
12) Pretending to be
more important than they actually are
13) Bragging
and exaggerating their achievements
14) Claiming to be
an "expert" at many things
15) Inability to
view the world from the perspective of other people
16) Denial of remorse and gratitude
Narcissistic supply is a term
typically used in a negative sense, describing a pathological or excessive need
for attention or admiration from co-dependents, or such a need in
the orally fixated, that does not take into account the feelings, opinions
or preferences of other people.
NPD
Diagnostic Bible
Narcissistic Personality Disorder NPD
definition:
DSM 5 is the newest “Bible” from the American Psychiatric
Association that defines and classifies mental disorders. – (As you read this; consider our congressmen, senators and
President.)
In order to qualify for a diagnosis of NPD, the following criteria must be
met:
1.
Having an exaggerated sense of self-importance
2.
Expecting to be recognized as superior even
without achievements that warrant it
3.
Exaggerating achievements and talents
4.
Being preoccupied with fantasies about success,
power, brilliance, beauty or the perfect mate
5.
Believe you are superior and can only be
understood by or associate with equally special people
6.
Requiring constant admiration
7.
Having a sense of entitlement
8.
Expecting special favors and unquestioning
compliance with your expectations
9.
Taking advantage of others to get what you want
10.
Having an inability or unwillingness to recognize
the needs and feelings of others
11.
Being envious of others and believing others envy
you
12.
Behaving in an arrogant or haughty manner
7
Deadly Sins
THE SEVEN
DEADLY SINS OF NARCISSISM -
Wikipedia -
1.
Shamelessness: Shame is the
feeling that lurks beneath all unhealthy narcissism, and the inability to
process shame in healthy ways.
2.
Magical
thinking:
Narcissists see themselves as perfect, using distortion and illusion
known as magical thinking. They also use projection to
"dump" shame onto others.
3.
Arrogance: A narcissist
who is feeling deflated may "re-inflate" their sense of
self-importance by diminishing, debasing, or degrading somebody else.
4.
Envy: A narcissist
may secure a sense of superiority in the face of another person's ability by
using contempt to minimize the other person or their achievements.
5.
Entitlement: Narcissists
hold unreasonable expectations of particularly favorable treatment and
automatic compliance because they consider themselves special. Failure to comply is considered an attack on
their superiority, and the perpetrator is considered an "awkward" or "difficult" person. Defiance of their will is a narcissistic
injury that can trigger narcissistic rage.
6.
Exploitation can take many
forms, but always involves the exploitation of others without regard for their
feelings or interests. Often the other
person is in a subservient position where resistance would be difficult or even
impossible. Sometimes the subservience
is not so much real as assumed.
7.
Bad
boundaries:
Narcissists do not recognize that they have boundaries and that others are
separate and are not extensions of themselves. Others either exist to meet their needs or may
as well not exist at all. Those who
provide “narcissistic supply” to
the narcissist are treated as if they are part of the narcissist and are
expected to live up to those expectations. In the mind of a narcissist, there is no
boundary between self and other.
Egocentrism is a term used to
show how infants function in the world where everything is about them.
Narcissism is like egocentrism in that the adult still
relates to the world like an infant. They use defense mechanisms to idealize self
so that they do not have to face their own mistakes and flaws; the Book would call this SIN… See the following verses -
Matthew
7:16 – You will know a Narcissists by THEIR WORKS
16 You will
recognize them by their fruits. Are grapes gathered from thornbushes, or figs from thistles?
(ESV)
Titus
1:16 – DENY GOD by DETESTABLE
DISOBEDIENT WORKS
16 They profess to know God, but they deny him by their works. They are detestable, disobedient, unfit for any good
work.
(ESV)
Acts 12:21-23 – They love the SOUND OF
THEIR OWN VOICE
21 On an appointed day Herod put on his royal
robes, took his seat upon the throne, and delivered an oration to them.
22 And the people were shouting, “The voice of a god,
and not of a man!”
23 Immediately an angel of the Lord
struck him down, because he did not give God the glory, and he was eaten by
worms and breathed his last.
(ESV)
Luke
20:46-47 – Narcissists loves greetings PLACES OF
HONOR
46 “Beware of
the scribes, who like to walk around in long robes, and love greetings in the marketplaces and the best seats in
the synagogues and the places of honor at
feasts,
47 who
devour widows’ houses and for a pretense make long prayers. They will receive
the greater condemnation.”
(ESV)
Psalm
36:1-3 – FLATTERS himself; Speaks TROUBLE & DECEIT
1 Transgression
speaks to the wicked deep in his heart; there is
no fear of God before his eyes.
2 For he flatters himself in his own eyes that his iniquity cannot be found out
and hated.
3 The words of his mouth are trouble
and deceit;
he has ceased to act wisely and do good.
(ESV)
Proverbs
17:22 – A narcissists CRUSHES THE
SPIRIT
22 A
joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries
up the bones.
(ESV)
1
Peter 5:5-6 – God opposes the PROUD
5 Likewise, you who are younger, be
subject to the elders. Clothe yourselves, all of you, with humility toward one
another, for
“God opposes the
proud but gives grace to the humble.”
6 Humble yourselves, therefore,
under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you,
(ESV)
Proverbs
16:18 – PRIDE &
HAUGHY SPIRIT goes before the fall
18 Pride goes before destruction, and a
haughty
spirit before a fall. (ESV)
Proverbs
18:12 – A HAUGHTY spirit brings destruction
12 Before destruction a man’s heart
is haughty,
but humility comes before honor. (ESV)
Jeremiah
17:9 – Without God the heart is DESPERATELY
SICK
9 The heart is deceitful above
all things, and desperately
sick; who can understand it?
(ESV)
Mark
7:21-23 – Without
God our hearts have EVIL THOUGHTS
21 For from within,
out of the heart of man, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality,
theft, murder,
adultery, coveting, wickedness,
22 deceit, sensuality, envy,
slander, pride, foolishness.
23 All these
evil things come from within, and they defile a person.”
25 lest
you learn his ways and entangle yourself in a snare.
(ESV)
Romans
16:17-19 – Avoid people with OBSTACLES
& DIVISIONS
17 I appeal to you, brothers, to watch out
for those who cause divisions and create obstacles contrary to the doctrine
that you have been taught; AVOID THEM.
18 For such persons do not serve
our Lord Christ, but their own appetites, and by smooth talk and
flattery
they deceive the hearts of the naive.
19 For your obedience is known to
all, so that I rejoice over you, but I want you to be wise as to what is good and
innocent as to what is evil. (ESV)
Proverbs
22:24 – Don’t befriend those with ANGER &
WRATH
24 Make no friendship with a man given to anger,
nor go with a wrathful
man,
(ESV)
1
Corinthians 5:11-13 – Don’t associate with GREEDY
SWINDLERS
11 But now I am writing to you not to
associate with anyone who bears the name of brother if he is guilty of
sexual immorality or greed, or is an idolater, reviler, drunkard, or swindler
NOT
EVEN TO EAT WITH SUCH A ONE.
12 For what have I to do with judging
outsiders? Is it not those inside the church whom you are to judge?
13 God judges those outside. “Purge
the evil person from among you.” (ESV)
1
Corinthians 6:9-11 – The UNRIGHTEOUS will go to Hell
9 Or do you not know that the
unrighteous will NOT inherit the
kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters,
nor adulterers,
nor men who practice homosexuality,
10 nor thieves, nor the greedy,
nor drunkards,
nor revilers,
nor swindlers
WILL (NOT) INHERIT THE KINGDOM OF GOD.
11 And such were some of you. But
you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the
Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.
(ESV)
Revelation
21:8 - Lake of fire for DETESTABLE
& FAITHLESS
8 But as for the cowardly, the faithless, the detestable, as for murderers,
the sexually
immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars, their portion will be in the
lake that burns with fire and sulfur, which is the second death.”
(ESV)
President
Trump
While searching the internet for examples of
Narcissism,
I was overwhelmed with the number of blogs about our President Donald J. Trump, so I felt a need to
mention him here. In my early years I
admired him because of his
accomplishments in real estate, and I patterned my investments after him,
owning multiple rentals and flipping properties. I instilled this in my three children and they
also owned multiple properties.
When Trump ran for President, I could not
have been more pleased, till I heard him speak.
The more he spoke the further from the Bible I saw him. I did not know that there was a term to
describe what I was observing, but it seemed to me to be Narcissism; a sickness.
The scripture that put a check
in my spirt the most was from Second Timothy describing someone that you should
STAY AWAY FROM; lover of self,
lover of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, ungrateful, unappeasable, slanderous,
without self-control, reckless and
swollen with conceit. With all that said, I do believe Trump is a patriot
and I wanted what he wanted; to make America Great again.
So, I held my nose and voted for
Mike Pence, a Christian
Vice-President and his running
mate. Because I know it pleases the Lord, I PRAY OFTEN for Trump that he will grow in the Lord and will
be guided and surrounded by Godly council. No matter whether we like it or not, He has been chosen
by God and is worthy of our respect and our prayers.
NOTE: King Nebuchadnezzar was the enemy of
Israel and of God, yet God called him His servant; and Israel got a horrible
spanking.[1] God in His Sovereignty will use who He wishes
to accomplish His plan; what we don’t know yet is whether Trump will be used as
a Blessing or a Curse.
IT’S IN THE BOOK
2 Timothy 3:1-5 – Avoid people that have the appearance of
godliness
1 But understand this, that in the
last days there will come times of difficulty.
2 For people will be lovers of
self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents,
ungrateful, unholy, heartless, unappeasable, slanderous,
3 without self-control, brutal, not loving good, treacherous,
4 reckless, swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God,
5 HAVING THE APPEARANCE OF GODLINESS, but denying
its power. AVOID SUCH PEOPLE.
(NLT)
Romans 13:1 – GOD PLACED TRUMP IN THE OFFICE OF PRESIDENT
1 Everyone must submit to governing authorities. For all
authority comes from God, and
THOSE IN POSITIONS OF AUTHORITY
HAVE BEEN PLACED
THERE BY GOD.
(NLT)
1 Peter 2:13-14 – Respect Donald J. Trump our President
13 FOR THE LORD’S SAKE,
RESPECT ALL HUMAN AUTHORITY
whether the king as head of state,
14 or the officials he has
appointed. For
the king has sent them to punish those who do wrong and to honor those who do
right.
(NLT)
It’s in the Book
From a Biblical perspective, Narcissism
refers to a person with a “heart condition”; one who is sick. The root cause of this condition is PRIDE; a
deep pleasure or satisfaction from one’s own perceived achievement. The Book calls pride; Sin. Jesus said,
“I tell you the truth, everyone who sins is a slave of
sin.
The Apostle Paul says that the trouble is with ME, for I am all
too human, a slave to sin. I don’t really understand
myself, for I want to do what is right, but I don’t do It.; instead, I do what
I hate. I know that nothing good lives
in me, that is, in my sinful nature. I
want to do what is right, but I can’t. There is a power within me that is at war with
my mind. This power makes me a slave to
the sin that is still within me.
We are all born narcissists and by our
very own human nature we are slaves, captive to our flesh; it’s all about ME. This changes when we HUMBLE ourselves and surrender our flesh to the
Lord and become transformed and set free.[2] Jesus Christ came to heal the blindness and
set the narcissistic
captive slaves free; that would be you and me. Thank God! The answer is in Jesus Christ our
Lord.[3]
Jesus said that a slave is not a permanent
member of the family, but a son is part of the family forever and when the Son sets
you free, you are truly free. [4]
15 Step Cure
15 conditions in Bible scripture that will heal you of narcissism; BEING FULL OF YOURSELF.
1) You
boast of your talents and achievements
- Give
credit to others for their efforts [5]
2)
Believe that you are
better than others - Be humble – Think of others interest [6]
3)
See others as inferior
with disgust- Ask God to be merciful to you; a
sinner [7]
4) Expect others to follow you; no advice needed - Seek many counselors’ to have
wisdom [8]
5)
Expect and deserve
special treatment - Take the lowest place at the
foot of the table [9]
6) Desire, expect and love praise - Give God
the glory – Point to Him [10]
7) Desire
power and success - Be
the servant; take the last place [11]
8) You
are un-emotional and tough – God will take away your stony stubborn heart [12]
9) Feel determined to climb the ladder higher - Not
about YOU;
Put your “I WILLS” aside [13]
10) You find a way to take advantage of people - Give
your workers the wages that are due [14]
11) Don’t notice others emotions and feelings - Involve
yourself with others; enjoy them [15]
12) Feel others are jealous of you - Expect
the best intent of others [16]
13) Your
Self-esteem is super sensitive - Be
happy with others success; celebrate with them [17]
14) Feel you don’t have a real friend - Jesus
will stick closer to you than a brother [18]
15) Feel rejected - Feelings get hurt easy - Jesus
was rejected so you would not be [19]
The Take Away
Egocentrism is when an
adult still relates to the world like a child, using TWEETS, bulling and fear, calling people names like Pocahontas and
Little Rocket
Man. Ponder that…
The Book says that the answer to narcissism is to have Love
in your heart; love
is patient and kind, it’s never jealous, boastful or proud. Love never demands its own way, nor is it
irritable and with love in your spirit you don’t keep records and
try “to get even”
with folks that hurt you.
Love is dependable and does not give up, it
never loses faith and is always hopeful; it endures every circumstance; three
things last forever: Faith, Hope, and Love,[20] but the greatest of these is Love, and Love will cover a multitude of sins.[21]
If you have the sickness of narcissism, then get the
cure; Get
God, Get Love … God is Love.[22] Anyone
who does not LOVE does not know God. [23]
We are created Eternal and will live for
all eternity somewhere. God loved us so
much that He sacrificed His only begotten Son, Jesus the Christ on the cross to
balance the scales and pay our debt for our sins.[24] He has given us a lifetime to find Him and through our FREE WILL, CHOOSE to experience
Him and His eternal love instead of His eternal wrath.
Satan tells us that ALL the spokes in a wheel lead to the SAME hub, but God says
there is only ONE WAY to
the Father[25]
and that’s through repentance and the belief in His only Son; Jesus
the Christ.
The choices we
make on this side of life have eternal consequences. Live is choice
driven.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 – Love is not
boastful, proud or jealous
4 Love
is PATIENT and KIND. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude.
5
IT DOES NOT DEMAND ITS OWN WAY.
It is not irritable, and it
keeps no record of being wronged.
6 It does not rejoice about injustice but
rejoices whenever the truth wins out.
7
LOVE NEVER GIVES UP, NEVER
LOSES FAITH,
IS ALWAYS
HOPEFUL,
and endures through every
circumstance.
(NLT)
1 Timothy 2:1-3 – PRAY for our
President because it pleases God
1 I urge, then, first of all, that
petitions, prayers, intercession and
thanksgiving be made for all people
for kings and all those in authority
2, that we may
live peaceful and quiet lives in all godliness and holiness.
3 THIS IS GOOD, AND PLEASES GOD OUR SAVIOR,
(NIV2011)
[1] Jeremiah 25:9 – Nebuchadnezzar God’s Enemy brought DESTRUCTION
and DESOLATION to
Israel but was Gods SERVANT
[2] Isaiah 42:7 – Jesus will open our blind eyes and set us free -- Luke 4:18
– FAITH releases the “blind captive slaves” to freedom,
the oppressed will hear Good News and be set free
[3] Romans 7:14-25 – The trouble is with me, I’m a slave to sin Thank God! The answer is in Jesus Christ our
Lord.
[4] John 8:34-36 – Everyone who sins is a SLAVE to sin, So
if the Son sets you free, you are truly free
[5] BOAST OF YOUR TALENTS AND ACHIEVEMENTS - Judges 8:1-3 – Give credit to others for their
efforts
[6] BELIEVE THAT YOU ARE BETTER THAN OTHERS - Philippians 2:1-8
– Be humble – Think of others interest
[7] SEE OTHERS AS INFERIOR WITH DISGUST -
Luke 18:9-14 – Ask God to be merciful to you; a sinner
[8] EXPECT OTHERS TO FOLLOW YOU; NO ADVICE NEEDED - Proverbs 11:14 – Seek many counselors’ to have
wisdom
[9] DESERVE AND EXPECT SPECIAL TREATMENT - Luke
14:7-11 – Take the lowest place at the foot of the table
[10] DESIRE, EXPECT AND LOVE PRAISE - Acts
12:21-23 – Give God the glory – Point to Him
[11] DESIRE POWER AND SUCCESS - Mark
10:42-45 – Be the servant; take the last place
[12] YOU ARE UN-EMOTIONAL AND TOUGH - Ezekiel
11:19 – God will take away your stony stubborn heart
[13] FEEL DETERMINED TO CLIMB THE LADDER HIGHER - Isaiah
14:13-15 – Put your “I WILLS” aside: It’s not
about you
[14] FIND A WAY TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF PEOPLE - James 5:1-4 – Give
your workers the wages that are due
[15] DON’T NOTICE OTHERS EMOTIONS AND FEELINGS - Romans
12:15-16 – Involve yourself with others; enjoy them
[16] FEEL OTHERS ARE JEALOUS OF YOU - 1
Samuel 17:26-29 – Expect the best intent of others
[17] SELF-ESTEEM IS SUPER SENSITIVE - 1
Samuel 18:7-9 – Be happy and enjoy others success
[18] FEEL THAT YOU REALLY DON’T HAVE A FRIEND --
Proverbs 18:24 – Jesus will stick closer to you than a brother
[19] FEEL REJECTED; YOUR FEELINGS GET HURT EASY - Isaiah
53:3-5 - Jesus was rejected so you would not be
[20] 1 Corinthians 13:13 - Three things will last forever: faith, hope, and love,
and the greatest of these is love
[21] 1 Peter 4:8 - Love covers a multitude of sins.
[22] 1 John 4:16 - God is love
[23] 1 John 4:8 - Anyone who does not LOVE does not know God
[24] John 3:16-17 – God loves us so much that He gave His Son Jesus as a
sacrifice for our sins.
[25] John 14:6 – There is only ONE WAY to God and that is through Jesus Christ
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